Women Drivers … Men Drivers!!??

This one post caches some of the most sincere and defying statements I ever have heard of. Well not once, not twice but a million zillion times, this particular topic has trickled me and has had a very bad, scandalizing effect on me!!


"Women are Bad, senseless Drivers"!!!!

How true is it?
Every time I hear this particular statement, I just can’t stop thinking about... The main agenda behind the statement! Why would a sensible man ever say that! I mean doesn’t he understand English!?

There is a wide difference between saying "All Women are bad drivers" or "A particular woman is a bad driver"!

How can ‘this’ category of MEN... generalize this Goliath subject?

It is rightly said, Some Men in this world could never ever bear the brunt of calling the women a superior sex even in one field!!! I mean it!

Delhi is a city with innumerable cabs and cabdrivers. Point to be noted here - All are men drivers! If anyone has seen the delhite’s driving, h/she will never ever forget it! :) Thats cent % true! ;)

Most (Almost all) of the accidents that occur in this city ... MEN Drivers! Still ‘these category’ of MEN have the nerves to talk wrongly about other sex's.

I myself have been driving on the roads of the city for almost 5 years now and I certainly feel hateful and scornful when guys make faces and give disgusting looks to me! They even point fingers! How sickening that could be?
I'll say this one Incident... Darn!! I actually parked my car aside and had a hearty laugh after this whole Incident!

Once while driving ... glued to my lane... I saw a bike walah who was just ahead of me slowly n slowly drifting towards my lane from his. I horned and he went back onto his lane... then while I was crossing him, he again started coming onto my lane... Slight difference else would definitely have had a minor accident there!!

That guy was either drunk or sleeping for sure! Anyhow I dint bother... I drove ahead!! After covering a short distance I saw the biker heading towards  me and drove right next to my car and gesticulated me to lower down the window pane. I did... he was like " Madam... Dhyaan se drive kia karo ... jaldi kis baat ki hai aapko"... I just gave him an ashtonished ‘ulta chor kotwal ko daante’ look and didn’t bother to listen to him. Hence just raced my car a bit!! ... I was wondering with what logic he came up to tell me this piece of crap!!!!!! I just smiled derisively...

This guy had all the freaking time in this world to actually race his bike - match up my car's speed - then with one hand on bike and other gesticulating me to lower down the window - shouting at the top of his voice just to tell me my "so-called" "never-happened" fault?????!!!

What on Earth did he think he was doing???

He was a fool and that too with an ultimate sense of humor!!!

The only question that blazed my mind at that moment was "what if I was a guy!?" This biker would have never even dared to step up to me to tell his piece of crap! He would have simply minded his own business! no reaction there!! Its become’s the Brother-Hood!

Also, Innumerable times, during parking at the malls or places like, the parking-guards ask me for the keys so that he can maneuver the car into the slot or back-out!! Why??? Who gives them the right? I can very well do it on my own!

How many times the truck-drivers switch the headlights of the truck on/off on seeing that the car ahead of them is being driven by a Lady! Shucks!!
How many times the guys call us names while driving by us?
How many times, while in a cab or any other car we (gurls) hear statements as ‘ye tho pakka ladki chala rahi hogi!’

I myself being a cautious driver, I know how gud I can drive!
I mean if a woman driver overtakes a man-driver's car ... shez eyed on, given disgusted and scornful looks! why? Had it been a Guy instead of a Woman... huh!

Well...this part especially goes out to the gurls/women ... never ever be scared or frightened or feel low on such comments! ...don’t loose your self-confidence ~ I know if you are a sensible driver you entirely understand what I mean here!

Anyways to sum it up, No wonder there are guys who are very good drivers whose maneuverability skills might be Excellent, but then there are women drivers too whose skill sets match those of Men!
On the contrary, there are guys who are senseless, wretched drivers and so there are women!

AND MEN MUST ACCEPT BOTH FACTS!! They Better Do!!!!

And I think that its high time when people/men realize & not for just the sake of ringing bells that women are at par with men in every field. The average Indian male still can’t accept the fact that ‘the second sex’ too has become educated.

If you can think on Modern Lines… well then apply them too in REAL Life for better!

This post wasn’t about debating on "Whose d Stronger Sex?" but on "We are all Humans and hence Be Sensible!! " :-)

Carom ..

Carom (4 pockets + coins ( x black + x white) + 1 Queen + 3 Players + 1 YOU)

Last year on the occasion of "The Good Winning over the Evil/Bad" i.e. Diwali, my company organized Sport events - Carom, TT, Cards etc.

CAROM BEING MY FAVOURITE INDOOR SPORT, I nominated myself for the Doubles!

My partner and me (Doubles) were made to play with various contenders (teams), Well did reach the Semi-Finals.. yayy!


I realized something!

All the teams I was playing with, In the END had the same strategy as We had - To Win The Game!

But.. Difference lie when it came to "How to Win the Game"!!

My Partner and I intended to get as many coins into the pockets as we can. Simple eh!

But there were few teams which had a different way of playing the Game (which truly speakin I never thought of)

These teams "How to Win the Game" was based on the "Architecture of blocking" as many pockets as they can with their coins so that the other team doesn't get a pocket free to Goal/ even to strike !! .... Amazing!

[For those who are unaware of the second concept: well its like blocking the surrounding space of the crease (2 parallel lines) from where you take the strike!!... so that you are left with no space to Actually take the STRIKE!! ... AND also blocking the surroundings of the pockets ..so that even if the STRIKER manages to take a STRIKE, it doesn’t end up the in the pocket ...WORST.. The Other Team’s coin may end up in the pocket!! ahhh... I Hate that!! :( ]

Well, to first reaction …....awwwww .. watt the hell - I Was Stunned .... then Disturbed ... and then Amazed .... and then finally Chuckled!!

Gosh!!
If they knew the ART of blocking ....then why not ART of Goaling?? Anyhow ..skills are required in either cases! Rgt!??

Anyways, I loved this new ART!! ... naayyy ...for those who think its unfair..Well I dont think so!

Just the way ... Instant Coffee / Decoction Coffee ...end product remains same! How to make ..Different! (Tastes Different too :P)

Well..My Take..



The one's who aim only on Goaling END up the most skilled!!
How ?
Well this set of people have a clear GOAL/OBJECT in the GAME i.e THE GAME.

Face hurdles - attempt to clear the hurdles - failures seen in clearing the hurdles - sometimes succeed -sometimes don't - but in the end.... They have acquired "THE ART"

ART of " Playing "!

Now substitute

CaROm bOaRd = LiFE
pOCkETS = OuR GoAlS
QUeEn = lUcK
CoInS = ThE DeCiSiOnS We tAke
cOiNs BlOckiNg = OtHeR's DeCiSiOnS
STriKeRs = oNE yOu n oThErS ....jUsT OtHeRs!!

LOVE N REGRETS (Do they go hand-in-hand ??...)

Well I have been thinking lately...not that I don't think otherwise...

But this one conversation my sakhi's had on one of the get-together's....It disturbed me ... :(


Well, some questions still playing hide n seek inside my mind .... :o

Is it a Gud practice to regret your Past?
Isnt it so, that Regretting about your past is like Insulting Your self at some point of time in Life??
Also The worst part, Why is that people compare their past with their present? Is that to Convince/Satisfy
themselves with the present(that they are livingin) or serious deadly happiness or just that they have to
contribute something on the matter?

Well All the statements above can appeal in different ways to different people!! :) ...so Excuse my thoughts!!

PEOPLE REGRETTING THEIR PAST RELATIONSHIPS ..... !!!...hummm.....

I find it quite amusing...rather disturbing!! :(

I guess whatever One gives-in for any relationship is the best one could have given at that very moment and
the one actually enjoyed doing so!! Isn't it so?

It hurts me when I see people calling their past relationships a mistake and henceforth Insulting it!

I know worst things might have happened until/unless really really worst...

Didn't that relationship at that point of time purify your senses,made you feel-the unfelt,made u say-
the unsaid,made u do-the never-done,made you see-the unseen??

Even Mother Nature doesn't regret of its Disasters..!!
Disasters are all a part of Mother Nature :) :)

Similar to our Sorrows, Pains, Past, Present are to our life !...These provide us an Identity!

Past tell us -What-we-are!
Present gives a chance to -What-we-can-be!
Future presents of -What-we-want-to-be!

Well in that Get-Together, my old pals were present, some married....well some in this category were going ga-ga over their hubbies and the life that THEIR HUBBIES have bestowed on them....mostly comparing their ex's with them!!.... ;) :)

Sweethearts ...what i would say is....By comparing you'v already done a Disaster there!!....Its just not worth it !! :) :)

I heard of statements like:
"Thank God! It ended! I'm so happy now!!" .... yea rgt!! :)
"I Thank my parents for actaully getting me out of him,showing me the right direction and finding me the Suitable Boy, I wouldn't have been this much happy,i know" ... Hmmm...Gud for you Babe :)

This is the Worst I found!! :( :P
"That was mere Attraction" .......really????..think again!! :o :)
"Thank God I never crossed my limits with him" ...Thank him too sweets :)

But tell me something, if at that time in your past would you have been told that your life is gonna end in say A week.....What would you have done??....Whom would you have poured on all your emotions?? Your ga-ga's "whtever" for Christ's sake!!!

You wouldn't have been to your parents (not all the time for sure)......or you wunt even bother to find your present mates with a torch for that matter!!!!......
The Only Person upon whom you wud have invested your Precious Time would have been this EX :) :)

Isn't that true??......For that would have given you eternal happiness at THAT moment :)

In Today's process of life....Each one of us needs/wants ..."ah!whtever!" a partner....a mate...a Best Friend...
Since Skool or Grad......
It’s like this Fashion!! :) Until and unless you have it....something's missing ;)

Only 10% of the new Threads exist by the end of a period of time.....and then only 3-4%....afterwards....

But I bet you enjoyed those moments with ur friends...though it might be so that you ended on a BITTER Note!!
If you claim, you dint enjoy it...then why the hell were you into it... Guess ..you were ONE of the Crowd ;)

The person might have not turned out to be the Right Guy......but the MOMENTS???..... :) :) What about them !! ??

Lastly, I would like to say,
Its Absolutely Okay to want/need someone but its more Okay if you accept him and the relationship ...... and HAVE the courage to face/admit the importance of that relationship-at that moment .....Afterwards!!! :) :)
Agree?? :) :)

[P.S. My Gurls...Forgive me if I had hurt your sentiments anywhere in this post...this was purely not intended :) :) ]

BE INSPIRED AND INSPIRE OTHERS!!

Everything has been written by the same hand.
The Alchemist

This post is for all the terrific people out there who have inspired others, by their acts!!

Be it the parents of a physically challenged son/daughter, who in spite of knowing their child's in competencies of not being able to live up to their dreams as a normal child would do, who knowing that their half the dreams for their son/daughter have been thrashed, not scoring high in exams, not making them proud of being called as father/mother of an achiever (be it sports/music etc),.....still entrusts on him/her the confidence of LIVING...INSPIRING him/her to conquer heights…..just like other kids…..and actually their kids turn out the “THE BEST”..”THE ACHIEVERS”!!!! 

Or

Parents of a child who has lived 23 years and due to fateful and tragic accident lies on bed in comma for more than a year, the pain, the hope that their child will be alright, he'll be normal, the prayers, the care that they render, the snapshot of the day they saw his bloody body in hospital, the way he is growing thin day by day, the helplessness they would feel in not being able to do anything for their love, the way they see their love's body being pierced with injections, food pipes, and what not......,the way they feed him thru the pipe that’s been drilled in his throat, the trauma, the separation, the fear of loosing him, the sleepless nights, the tension-filled days......, the hope, the faith, the desperateness.....thus INSPIRING themselves and family members…..to not-to-stop-hoping…….not-to-stop-being-positive…..

Or

A Poor peasant/worker who earns a meager amount, in spite of getting toiled in the scorching heat, working until the sun has sucked up that 1% of H2o too from his body, even at high fever-he has to work else his family would be loosing out on the only course the next day, manages to work...to get his children educated, gives up on his desires just to fulfill his children's desire, the exhaustion, the helplessness, the spirit to survive so that he could
see his kids survive, the mother working at various houses as maids, gives up to buy a new saree for herself, just for the sake her children could wear new clothes in school….thus INSPIRING the millions of peasants/workers just like them to earn and educate their children……

Or

The family whose only male member (DAD) is suffering from cancer, and as they know the fate, still tries to live up with it, seeing their dad coughing, bleeding, getting hurt,-the pain the family goes thru seeing their loved one being snatched bit by bit by the daemon(death),the helplessness…thus INSPIRING each other to live…..cope up…..

Or

The positive attitude with which a father lives his whole life, and then when he passes away, the teachings, memories, his words linger around and are remembered by his children and wife….which help them in coping up of his loss…..thinking if dad would have been here in this situation, he would have done this and that……..thus INSPIRING each other in the family…..

Or

Anyone who hasn't given up in spite of all the adversities he/she may have faced in life, and still struggling to live each and every moment on this EARTH with cruel ppl's eyes piercing thru their body's, the girl's who are abused each day when they are standing at the bus stands, or in trains, by those merciless daemon's eyes.....the women who have fought for their
rights......the widow's of many martyrs with un doubtful courage to live...the jawan's who lay their life for someone else(country) not for themselves..... INSPIRING others too to join army…..


HATTS OFF TO ALL OF YOU!!!.......People ask "where is GOD?" ......I say...."YOU ARE ALL GOD!!..HIS FORM!!!"

If you observe carefully ....the no. of people who actually don’t give up in adversities are very few....
And henceforth, I would say I have covered only a section of people, rest fall under different category's but not this one!!
For sure!!

Why people give up? Why everyday we come to hear of Suicides? Why young children (school) who haven't actually yet entered the mainstream of life still giving up so easily? Why people nowadays going more into depression?....why???

The word I found for it is "LACK OF INSPIRATION & COMPASSION"!!!!

Not money, not love, not anything!!!!....................but…….

INSPIRATION N COMPASSION
Why are we hesitant to inspire others? What are you here for on this earth if u cannot pass down the experience/knowledge gained by u over the years to others? TEACH PEOPLE…..BE INSPIRED…...N.....INSPIRE OTHERS.....BE COMPASSIONATE!!

How would you feel if you dint have anyone to guide u? advice u?
Each of us needs Each other!!! .....We are all dependent....nothing to be ashamed of.....you can’t produce until you are dependent on the other sex?....then y not respect /INSPIRE the other sex.....

Please people we are all here for some gr8 thing!!!....be it in any form…..make a person’s life by inspiring them, igniting the sparks which are lying rested…..
One can do this in any ways, TEACH ….BE COMPASSIONATE TO THEM…CONTRIBUTE IN UR OWN WAY IN THEIR LIVES…………
TOGETHER WE CAN N WE WILL BRING A DIFFERENCE!!!!

Beggary........And Begging!!!!

“An idea that is developed and put into action is more important than an idea that exists only as an idea”

Well… I was at NFC yesterday. As it was my friends birthday party and he was to give us a treat. All the felicity turned to dismay when I saw little girls and boys (not one or two…around 15 of them) begging. I was standing along with two of my friends when a girl with an amputated leg came dragging herself to us and asked for money rather begged for money. I usually do give money to children in the busses and trains when they play their harmonium or sing as a reward, but this was different. While my friend started exploring her purse for money, I stood their gazing at the girl….whether or not I should give money to her. I don’t know what stopped me at that time. I thought a lot…… my mind was quite upset about the whole thing. I went blank at that moment; the only question that was occurring to me was… “Should I or Should I Not?” The whole way back home I kept thinking…….what could be done for such destitute children????

Is begging wrong??? After all it can be due to anything but personal choice.

if begging is wrong/bad then what’s right??....and if that’s right then who will do it for them???........where can we play a role????

Everyday we see a number of children begging on the roads and we just turn our backs on them by saying, "What can we do?" How many times have we waved our hands to push aside little kids on roads, in front of malls, shops, red lights.....and where not???? We call them beggars……..............

Some even draw conclusions that these children’s parents don’t wish to earn for themselves and hence they put forth their children to do the business....... is this you think?????

Ok accepted!!!!!!

Thinking they are beggars..... And they don’t deserve your money........you don’t give them any!!!
Next what????
Next day u again see the same child begging!!!!
U again wave him/her away!!!

How many times would u do this????

U feel contended of the fact ...... thank god!!!!.......i have stopped a child from being a professional beggar and one day this institution will stop if each one of us stops giving money to these beggars.

Really???? Do u really think so?????
THINK AGAIN!!!!!!

By the time this institution ends (fingers crossed on that which I hope…. Will)….hundreds of thousands of kids would have died by that time…… or would have chosen the wrong paths!!!!!.....

What and who is responsible for this?????

Have you ever given a thought that what compels such children to beg even in the extreme weather conditions? We watch them daily raising their little hands before strangers and most of the time they are screamed at.

Isn’t it possible that these little beggars are just another group of harassed victims? Or worse, the ugly face of a bonded life.

I have come across many people who try to convince me to the best of their convincing skills to stop me from giving them money.

and the reason they gave me ……” they think there’s a gang of beggars constituting of the trainers and the beginners.....and these trainers put forth their children to do the begging......and at the end of the day these trainers collect money that each and every beginner has managed to pull up………..and give them a meager amount as commission.

And when the beginners are not able to collect money for a day….they are beaten up black and blue….not given food……water…anything!!!!....and who knows they are victims of more serious punishments…….hurting them in some or the other way!!!!! “!

And henceforth, one should not give money to them.

I read in a recent newspaper article informing more about this social evil where a representative of Bachpan Bachao Andolan, said, “The child beggars are part of a forced beggary racket. They are trained how to carry crutches to appear disabled on road and later paid Rs 10 or 20 as commission out of their daily earnings."

There are gang leaders that include females also, who keep a check on the beggars so that they could not steal the money. Or if children are found doing so they are serious consequences for that.

So this is the story behind YOU not giving money to these beggars???

Okay…it may be possible that the group of children that representative came across may have had those traits. But it’s not fair to conclude that this is the sole reason of children begging.

That’s set!!!!?????........ Does your perception about the “beggary” thing end here?????

Or you are trying to find a new justification of the whole idea??????

Just by putting up a silly excuse or story, u can’t famish little children.

Where have they gone wrong???...they are just doing what they have been taught!!!!

A beggar’s life is far more tragic than we can imagine. Standing at traffic signals, begging for that elusive rupee or two in exchange for a flower or a balloon in extreme weather conditions can be anything but personal choice.

"My uncle takes away my daily-earnings and arranges food for us. We are four sisters and all of us work at this traffic signal. Though sometimes people are kind but sometime they are very rude. Many a times we find people gazing at us in a bad way. I don’t want to go to school. It doesn’t pay. I sell flowers at times at this traffic signal, but my sisters beg for our ailing mother’s treatment," said 14-year-old Anita (name changed) near Moti Bagh traffic signal.

Most begging children don’t actually have a choice. They just have to work irrespective of fever or any other disease. Teenager girl beggars suffer the worst. Be it a lorry-driver, auto-rickshaw driver or the notorious traffic policeman, all look at them with bad intention. And, the poor helpless girls cannot do much about it.

For some, the bonded beggary is the cost they pay after running away from their native land. But for others, it is the last choice to avoid a threat to be made a prostitute or served before any pedophile (adult who is sexually attracted to children).

People will still oppose me saying ….there are schools…why don’t their parents get them join there???.....or they can work somewhere!!!!!.........at least they’ll earn!!!!

If they really had that much brains……..they would not have been found begging….SIR/MAM.

I don’t understand as to why people hesitate giving money to people who really need them???? Again few days back I was traveling in a bus when a poor person carrying 2 granite sort of flat stones boarded the bus at Noida mod and starting singing LORDSAI hymns!!!!.....it was searing afternoon!!!...though the weather here is very bad…..his way of singing the hymns really comforted people …I can clearly see it the way people were softly tapping their hands and feet. But when it came to giving a reward for the same, nobody came in front!!!!...everybody was peeking here and there whether the people sitting next, behind, beside them were giving money or not! If they are, then they too would too pull out something for him. Why that hesitation???....

Are you giving something to the undeserved??????....then why that shame????

He made you feel better, didn’t he?? If he hadn’t then….. Accepted!!! Nothing goes to him…..but that wasn’t the case!!!! Then why???

What’s the difference between Saif playing guitar in his recent concert……and little girls playing/singing some filmi or bhakti songs on tune with harmonium in the buses?????

Aren’t they doing the same thing????......one is on a grand scale and one consisting of few people.

Why we appreciate Saif but not these kids???...... Both are doing so to earn their bread…aren’t they????

I can go on and on with this topic……finally never reaching to the conclusion as to what I(We) can do for them!!!!....

All I can appeal here that….. Just for a second not thinking about a why’s how’s of them begging…..believe what you see!!!!

There are occasional beggars, who are in the daily wage business and take to begging when the going gets tough. Sociologists say that the problem of begging exists due to the absence of organized system of charity.

More than our money, these little beggars expect compassion towards their tragic lives so that they could be rescued from this vicious circle of poverty and pain. They are helpless and seek public support.

This summer’s is going to be really terrible for every being…..and I know you would agree with me!!!!

If you don’t wish to give money, don’t!!! Instead give them a treat…..buy something for them to eat, drink…..!!!!

I am not asking you to buy something superficial!!

Show them your love!! Show them you care!!!! I am not at all saying promote begging!!!! But for the sake of humanity, brotherhood, don’t just shove them away!!!

Next time you visit Mc D or any other restaurant please if you can spend an extra Rs 20 to bring a smile on a face..!!!!! it hardly makes a difference in your budget!!

There are children dying out of hunger. And in this scorching heat people are dying of heat, thirst!!!! HELP THEM!!!! HELP THEM in whatever way you can!!!

By God’s Grace you have all the basic amenities in life…Food, Clothes and Shelter ….which you’ve received even before asking your parents. Please help them!!!

Go through these.......

speechlesss.........




just dumbfounded......



reality.....

what am I upto

No I am not up to anything. Cause I know whatever one does for this situation it is not enough. All this hurts, some feel guilty, some simply do not want to face this dreadful reality, some are angry. All this happens, I mean the reaction because we all have a very sensitive mind. But what about those people who in a way create such situation. definitely such situation are also created by different means like WAR, RIOTS, HOARDING MORE THAN WHAT IS NECESSARY AND FANATICS CREATING TERROR IN THE NAME OF RELIGION, LAND, CASTE ETC ETC.

IS THIS NOT A CRIME AGAINST HUMANITY.

A realization....

Hi, I know it’s been quite a long time I have put up anything on my page………..

well, for better!!!

After a lot of thinking ….. i thought of writing in for some REAL issues...

Issues thought by everyone…….. but only a few take some action on it!!!!

Issues that have constantly been in each one of our minds …….. but only a few have the nerves to do something about it…..even if it’s in one’s own way..!!!!

Issues we see, feel, hear, sense every day of our lives, but are never too hard hitting for us to be sensitive about.

Issue’s that have raised questions on the very thought of human existence!!!

Issues we are ashamed of……. But too timid to talk about!!!

Have u ever thought about it????....... if yes, then pen it down!!!!

I seek to utilize this space for all things I can and should communicate to the world. I always wanted to voice my opinions but then never understood how??? There are many unanswered questions that violently are churning up in my mind….. seeking for answers. I hope penning down some of my questions, thoughts, will help me calming my inner self…… as sometimes we do get the answers of some of the mind boggling questions once we start talking and discussing about it. This blog apart from just a routine record of what takes place in my life goes beyond that.

So that’s what I intend; to discuss the not-so-normal contours of life; issues which we would otherwise not care to recognize or acknowledge. Art, the new intellectuals, the human mind, the battered society, to listen to voices that resound with helplessness and regret, the deepest turmoil of myriad emotions in a humans life, and above all the real reasons for our ‘existence’.
If this seems too much (or too boring) for you to handle, think again. All these might just be the issues we see, feel, hear, sense every day of our lives, but are never to hard hitting for us to be sensitive about. In short, I would like to say…. this blog is a soul stirrer, and a brain worker.

GET INVOLVED, FEEL WHAT YOU WRITE AND WRITE WHAT YOU TRULY FEEL FOR.